Compatibility is not having the same taste in music or sharing an equal aversion to getting up early in the morning.
It’s about the opinions and views you and your significant other have in common. At the end of the day, what makes your relationship hold up over time is not the sexual chemistry or the time you spend watching tv before you go to bed at night.
Compatibility is the unique blend of strengths that each partner brings to the table that keeps the relationship stable yet flexible.
In the first stage of romance, we are prone to idealize the person we are dating. Freud once compared falling in love to the state of hypnosis, an instance in which we project our dreams and longings onto the relationship.
As you continue to date the person, you begin to realize how similar or different they really are from you. Fantasies fall away, and it becomes clearer what beliefs and life goals you share, the ones that establish your relationship.
Compatibility also has to do with how comfortable you feel sharing your emotions and feeling understood and encouraged by the person you love. It is the powerful sense of simply being yourself in the presence of your partner, regardless of their tastes or personality.
Compatibility takes many forms.
Emotional compatibility is about the trust you have in each other and knowing they are there for you no matter what.
Physical compatibility is the degree of sexual chemistry you have with your partner. You can build it by being honest about your needs and encouraging your other half to share their fantasies and desires.
Then we have future goal compatibility, which refers to how much you agree on your philosophies and life goals. This is important as it will outline your travel plans, family, and career aspirations. Most of these goals will impact the amount of time you will spend in the future, which is essential.
And life philosophy compatibility speaks to how each of you approaches life and interprets your experiences. Connecting with your partner on this level will lead to deeper intimacy and understanding.